Spying on your cheating husband may get you in trouble

So you suspect that your husband or boyfriend is cheating on you, and you want to test out all the new software/hardware spies that you've bought. Before you go out and pretend to be James Bond, remember that there are laws governing the use of spy equipment that will allow you to eavesdrop on a phone call, internet conversation, etc.

Also note that when hiring a private investigator, you should spend a couple of days researching and studying their past experience. A private investigator who uses illegal means of collecting evidence, which is worthless because evidence aquired illegally will not be usable in a cour of law, may get sued by your cheating partner along with yourself.

Whenever you purchase spy equipment, there are disclaimers (on reputable sites that sell these spy gears/programs) that basically say you, and you alone, are at fault if you use it for any illegal activities. Not only will your plans on spying on your cheating husband fail, it may also cause you to lose the case if you ever bring it into court. Don't risk the chance of getting full custody of your children, or get the bulk of your assests because you screwed up by hiring an inexperienced private investigator, or used spy gadgets illegally yourself.

What can I do legally to catch my cheating spouse?

I'm not saying you CAN'T use spy tools, I'm just saying be cautious. Sometimes, if it isn't a serious affair and your spouse did it as a one time thing(common among middle aged men to seek "adventure"), he won't even think of suing you and he will come to his senses. He might not even know it is illegal to listen in on calls using cellphone spies. So if you're going to catch a cheating spouse, you can use these spy programs/gadgets as tools to help you determine if your spouse is really cheating on you or not. Once you get rock solid evidence, in the form of video tapes or email/chat transcripts, then you can start confronting him about his affair.

I don't have cash to spare, how can I tell if my husband is cheating?

You don't really have to purchase anything, the cellphone spies, keyloggers, hidden cams, etc are only there to give you peace of mind if you yourself cannot tell. You can just simply observe your husband and looks for signs of a cheating husband. Start a journal and list down everything you've seen that is out of place or just started happening. Things like over time at work, or spending exessive time with co-workers who remain unnamed are tell tale signs that he is up to something.

Some things you should look out for are:

• More hours working or overtime, but no increse in pay or bonuses at work.
• Husband would rather stay at home than go out with you, and when he goes out, it's with his friends or co-workers.
• More business trips or company outings where they "aren't allowed" to bring guests.
• Zero to no intimacy. Your husband would rather sleep or watch TV. A cheating husband will stop confiding in you or seems insincere when you confide in him.
• Unexplained spending. Check on your spouse's bank account or credit card bills. Be sure to record this in your journal, this is important.

Check out 60 signs of a cheating spouse (found in the link above) for more things you should watch out for and write down in your cheating journal.